Does "Lately, I've been feeling a little neglected" sound more conciliatory than "You've been neglecting me."? Yes it does.
Effective
communication is about more than just exchanging information; it's also
about understanding the emotions behind the information. Listening is
one of the most important aspects of effective communication. Most times
because we are trying to make our points known, we blurt out all of our
angry feelings in the highest tunes rather than speaking slowly enough
for our partner to understand. There is nothing wrong with speaking
your mind but when you do, give a clarify information so as to avoid
conflicts and misunderstandings. When communicating how you feel, try to
hit all of the key points instead of going round in circles and
repeating what’s already been said. If you keep talking and talking,
your partner might become overwhelmed and tag you as the nag.
As
much as you want to get it all out, try not start an argument off by
accusing your partner of making a mistake, this way partner is less
defensive and more likely to communicate openly. Sometimes your partner
is still working out his/her thoughts and feelings and wants some time
to him/herself. Giving space and time to reflect and process those feelings
can bring admission and realization. Remember a true compromise is one
in which both partners feel that their thoughts and feelings are
addressed while adhering to real constraints.
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