Question not, I do have a soul!

Letting go because i loved her so,
question not, i do have a soul.
one day,may be tomorrow,
i'll open her eyes and let her know.
that heaven and earth knew i loved her so.
                                                              By  rushposh...

Dear Poshbloggers, 

 I once had a parrot for a pet, it was a good listener and i could say whatever and get away with it...18 months into the relationship with my parrot, i had to let go. Why? Because i was busy with studies, work, traveling and other things and i knew it was only a matter of time before she completely hated me. I had never been that far away from her, I no longer had alone time with my pet that i clamed to love so much. I tried to make it work by sending her to my parents but they were also busy. I finally had a break after 3months of not setting my eyes on her, With no time to spare i rushed home to her but when i got there she was cold and not a sound...Her eyes had given up hope but i could still see she loved me so. I got her out of her cage and held her in my arms, i told i was sorry and how i wished things were different or yet we lived in another time. She then made a sound and in my twisted it sounded like” your forgiven”. The Crazy thing I LET HER GO and as I watched she fly away I felt rain of sadness but afterwards a cloud of happiness. Later that week i was asked why i let her go and my answer was that i loved her so much so I had to let her go. i knew i wasn’t going to still have time even if I promised and tried. Who knows in the long run she will thank me, for letting go was the best thing. Don’t you think?

QUESTION;  
If you love someone and you have tried to make it work but it didnt, should you set them free or hold them back for finding true happeniess?

under a spell

How different are we really...A man uses the body language technique and we fall under the spell of lust and want. He undresses you with his eyes, caresses gently with his hands and casts an everlasting spell of sexual energy. He deals in impetuous words, word that may be non-coherent, sentences not understood yet leaves an amazing feeling behind. Caught in the web of lust and want, we fall in the danger of it all and when he breaks up with you eventually, you blame it on sorcery and on others but yourself. You forget you entered of your own free will and resisted not. . Reforming a man gives you a sense of power when really he has all the power just wants you to think u do
You must realize that a conqueror is a hunter and if he senses that your guts have him in the open, he will find a way around it. To get you is a must! Why it hurts so much when he leaves?   Women are easily sold by it. A conqueror tells you what you want to hear, it’s a game, one that involves calculation, time, effort, patience and paying attention to details. It also involves him studying you and making himself available for you and then been the ideal lover.
 My thought on the 21th century conqueror is that, he should be spending more time working, inventing and stopping world hunger instead of breaking hearts.  A truly wise man would know that investing in one girl is way better (one of the befits of being in a relationship) Picture a hunter in search of meat, if by sun down, none is caught he will go home and come hunting another day. But if during the hunting he spots a prey {availability} he will not sleep till his gotten the prey {woman} in his hands. He will woo, set traps, catch, eat and be satisfied.  Spell or not, there is joy when he counts the numbers of his conquest in the end.  He is a conqueror; a player is what we call it these days…

The illusion

Playing the coquette …It’s a cat and mouse game. It starts off with the illusions of one seeming interested and then taking two steps backwards of disapproval. Its the art of offering little hope for the present and creating an illusion of an exciting future. He does the chase while she plays 007, the mission impossible (long thing).
 She offers the ultimate temptation by enticing and then frustrating him. It becomes really frustrating when misunderstood and ignored. A coquette casts out every thought that says she can change or reform a man and she never lets her guard down because it might turn out to be her down fall. A coquette knows that even if a woman feels in her heart a fiery passion for a man, she must hold that passion in - with a leash of exemplary patience! For a real captivator of men knows instinctively that an easy victory produces a fickle victor.
A coquette specializes in flirting or coquetry; Coquetry is seduction that appears to defy logic yet I am convinced at the effectiveness over the years. conquetry usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests an interest in a deeper relationship with the other person. in most cases flirting is done for fun. shes backed up with power of mind that says, she can she get whatever she desires.

We see what we want to see some times...Not all women engage in the coquette powers, some haven’t even discovered or established their powers because of they are busying worry about there physical appearance and doing nothing about it. So guys, if shes taking steps back don't push her, create space. This seduction may last long. Keep it simple. It could be a thousand things, it could even be because of some fears or insecurity, doubts and past experiences.
To win the heart of a coquette, you must wait and wait patiently till she comes to you. Don't intimidate her. Move slowly. Advance very slowly and if she doesn't response well, take a step back as well but not for too long because giving a woman too much space you risk losing her altogether. There's still something like being a man and taking the lead, Making her feel freedom, because slippery/elusive people (like the coquette) sometimes just are not sure of what action to do. Pressure will kill attraction. If she takes the steps towards you, it's more solid & consistent. She has to invest. I guess the best action is letting HER come close to you. I mean, if she doesn't come to a date and makes up excuses why, go on talking with her, and try to make HER take the next step. If after all said and done,she rejects you, it's not your fault. She is free and we respect it. And love is a two way thing. If shes really in to you She has to put in her half and take steps to make it work.

a ménage à trois

 Three-some... The intimate expression of love or an adventure with unknown consequences?

 I was having dinner the other night, when I overheard some dudes talking about three some, I momentarily forgot about my dinner companions, for the subject was far more juicy for me to tune out. Typically, I'm not an eavesdropper. But as someone who specializes in relationship issues, I hear the word "three-some" and the neurons in my brain start firing like it's the Fourth of July. I remember one of the guys asking if a relationship can survive a threesome. Now that got me thinking. It’s a known fact that most guys have fantasies of being with more than one woman and for me, I think the three some act is a way to test our power and our limits in relationships. Why aren’t women easily down for the three some act? Women are really emotional, we fight it and sometimes we overcome it and block any form of emotions but we are still women. A threesome has the potential to toy with a woman’s emotion; while it can be a fabulous experience [especially for the men], it’s important to tread carefully. Guys are more easily aroused by body parts, whereas women more often need a deep connection to get into sex. Between the distraction of another person, the worries, and the fact that this is just sex and not connection, it might turn out to be as much fun for the babe. For men It’s exciting. It’s being a sexual glutton and men want it for the same reason women want two pieces of chocolate more than they want one. He can be entirely be satisfied and still like the idea of a threesome because it's so exciting and the thoughts are calling. Women may be more likely to agree to a three-way out of pressure or wanting to please their partners without really being into it. And whether or not pressure is involved, if a woman is having a three-way with another woman she is likely to be more distracted by worries about the other woman than having an erotic experience. Thoughts of  how pretty is this other woman compared to me? How much attention is “she” getting compared to me? What does it mean about how he feels about the relationship?e.t.c will start to bug her. If you must go into a three some to spice your relationship,you need to have a level of trust with your partner, a level of intimacy and a strong desire and conviction that you are with the right person because threesomes can confuse you with respect to the role of sex in a relationship.

Shes not gettin it,why?I think it also depends on the rules laid out form the very beginning. If you enter into a strictly monogamous relationship it may be hard for it to survive a threesome as it directly conflicts with the original ideas and agreements set out in the beginning. 

ADVISE for women; no matter how much of a sex goddess you are, that will always be his fantasy. I wouldn't get too hung up on it though. All the poor guy did was ask if you'd consider it. It's not like he pressured you or even told you that he wants to do it (which, by the way, he probably does). He just put it out there casually to gauge your interest. And now that he knows you'd rather have a full-body wax than see him fondle another woman’s breasts, he'll probably never broach the subject again. Cut him some slack. 

ADVISE for men ; If you want a threesome like those you see in porn you’ll probably have to do what they do in porn: pay a couple of women to act like they’re loving it. I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with the act itself, nor do I think it’s necessarily “just about the sex”, people have been doing it with different degrees of success for a long time. Like with anything it’s all about communication, negotiation and honesty. If someone needs to be pressured it’s definitely not a good idea. So don’t pressure.

Relationship with God[Y.our exceptional]

You might not think of yourself as exceptional, but you are. You are a hand-crafted original. God made you on purpose, no accidents of fate or chance. The Bible says that when God created man and woman He “saw everything that He had made, indeed it was very good.” (Genesis 1:31) God created you and He is interested in the details of your life. The Bible tells us that Gods knows each of us better than we know ourselves – he even knows how many hairs are on your head! (Matthew 10:30).
It’s pretty incredible to think about. The same God who created the stars and turns the colors of the leaves in Fall, created you. You are His masterpiece and He loves you. God created you to have a relationship with Him. So remember...Your the apple of God's Eyes and He Love you.

BLIND SPOTS

Blind Spots are patterns of thinking, feelings or behavour  not seen by your partner. Its often done unconsciously and when the blindspot is realized it can negatively influence our relationship.
So why are blind spots such a big deal? Blind Spots can become possible problems in our working processes and relationship and if left unchecked, they can become serious obstacles to our progress and may cause a crash. We develop Clear Sight when we begin to recognize our blind spots and have a simple plan for turning them into strengths and Once people start seeing the fresh possibilities gained from Clear Sight at work, they want every person in their lives to share their experience. Its clear when your in love.

Going Deeper

Driving- always look over your shoulders before changing lanes!

Relationships-always think about you partner before making decisions that affect both of you. Relationship is a two way street.

Driving- While this mirror method is very effective at reducing blind spots, one cannot depend on it to eliminate them. It is still possible for bikes, and many more things to hide in unexpected areas around your car.

Relationships-You may try different methods to hold a relationship together but there is no grantee that it will stick because different things such as change [like moving far away]might just change the course of things.  Its possible that unexpected things might pop up [like a baby from another women, you read on the web that woman is engaged to some else and is about marry]. You were right there but you didn’t see because you both weren’t oiling your wheels of love.